It’s good to be me

The large family topic yesterday was about comments people make to those of us with larger families.

Mine include, but are not limited to:

- Like Carmen, I have been told that “since you got your girl, you can now keep your legs closed”. This was said to me by my cousin, who I love dearly…..who herself had 4 kids. Humpf.

- You finally got your girl.

- Everyones favorite: “You have your hands full”

- People counting my children outloud.

- I have had people make a cross with their hands and push it towards me as if to ward off whatever demon would give someone that many kids.

- Better you than me.

- And last but not least someone said to me “It sucks to be you”.

You know, whatever. I usually ignore them, or tell them how lucky I am.

More important to me is when someone goes out of their way at a restaurant to come over to my table and tell me how much they enjoyed watching my kids and asking me “Do you know how lucky you are to be surrounded by these gorgeous children”.

Yes, I do know…and I thank God for people like that, who are aware of the value of a child. Those are the people that God sends to give us affirmation and encouragement.

We are incredibly fortunate to live in a Catholic community where most people have 4 or more children, so the only time I get the comments are when I go to the big cities surrounding us. Yes, they piss me off sometimes and I would love to rip into the person, but I have learned that they will not get it, no matter what I say to them, so why waste the energy that could be better spent on my kids.

So, don’t let them take the air from your sails. It sucks to be them, you know?