Comments on: Role reversal

By: meritt

meritt — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 13:27:48 +0000

I vote for going part time. The kids are going to grow SOOOO incredibly fast that you are going to have an 18 year old leaving for college in the blink of an eye!

If you can swing it – go part time. Still get out of the house, have an adult job, get to be a woman instead of just mommy and wife… but more likely not to have forgotten children at daycare, missed schedules and a stressful frantic lifestyle.

If part time is truly an option to return to right now I’d go for it.

By: wendy

wendy — Wed, 25 Oct 2006 03:26:07 +0000

What a great dad! No wonder she loves him so. Your tie-kiss is such a beautiful morning ritual, it almost makes me wish my man wore a tie to work.

I say B and/or F

Hope that helps!

By: ccap

ccap — Fri, 20 Oct 2006 20:31:28 +0000

Well, as someone about to head back to work and leave her babe I’ll have to go for d. But I am sooo not above f either.

By the way, I’ve told you before that I have a bit of a crush on your husband. Don’t get too freaked out – I have a bit of a crush on you too. And your kids. Gosh, your whole family really. Don’t worry, I live a long way away.

By: Corky

Corky — Fri, 20 Oct 2006 01:47:29 +0000

No one’s ever wished that they had worked more when their kids were young. Not many years left until Mia will be in school full time, enjoy them.

By: kathy

kathy — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 18:35:18 +0000

Quit. I won’t read the other responses so I won’t be swayed, but quit. You can always go back to work (especially YOU!) but you’ll never get this time back. Sissy went over to the dark side (Jamie) when I was hospitalized, pregnant with Ellen. She has never come back. Ellen is ALL MINE!

But seriously, quit. Unless you need the money or are starved for the needs that are met by your working, quit.

By: Mel

Mel — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 18:41:02 +0000

Go to part-time.

My daughter is 4 and had no eyes for anyone but me for all this time. And now, suddenly, she wants to go to her friend’s house. On Sunday, she wouldn’t even sit with me at church–she had to sit by her friend (he’s 2!) and his mom!

Fickle kid!

By: Paula

Paula — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 17:16:07 +0000

I vote for b and d. You’ve mentioned how stressful this transition to working full time has been numerous times, and it doesn’t sound like it has gotten easier. Meanwhile, Bill has gotten a great new job. But, your job sounds like too good of an opportunity, in terms of $$ and flexibility and hours and doing what you love, to walk away from. But if they will let you go part time–DO it.

You can always quit later, and odds are, in your profession, that you could probably go back to full time in the future if you wanted. Meantime, you are keeping up your skills in case you should really need to go back to work full time.

By: Patty

Patty — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 14:31:01 +0000

I to had the same problem when my girls where little. They are now 14 and 18. They have a great relationship with both of us now. Have a drink and enjoy watching. She will change with whoever is home more. Bill is working now. It is very hard to go through.

By: chris

chris — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 12:18:10 +0000

I WISH I could get my kids to go to their father.

I vote to get a gecko and have a margarita. That wasn’t an option so I had to make it up.

By: Sherri

Sherri — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 04:04:19 +0000

What is with all this “lurkers”, everyone is talking about lurkers – makes me feel like I’m spying from the bushes…I’m just enjoying my daily dose of reading, for verification that my life really is normal

That aside, I would opt for option B, time does go by too quickly to spend time stressing over things if they can be changed, part-time might allow you to feel more balanced. Now if I can just remember my own advice…

Lurker out. (Ick, I feel like I have to go take a shower)