Husband induced computer laryngitis
HALLO! How are ya?
I feel alot like I have had a gag in my mouth this week, computer wise. Real life has been like, I don’t know, maybe a bit on the side of fanflippintastic, if not a bit weird.
I mean, Bill and I wake up together, get the kids off to school as usual, then he comes back home and doesn’t leave. We, like, have coffee together. If Mia goes to Nannies, we go back to bed and, you know, sleep (wink, wink). Then we get up, go for a bike ride, come back and make lunch together, shower together………..IT IS WEIRD! But really, really good weird.
One of the biggest problems that we had been having, prior to this change, was not enough time together as a couple. When Bill got home from work, I almost felt like I had to compete with the kids for his attention. We set ground rules that they always managed to get around (whimpy parents) in regards to interrupting our conversations. I felt really disconnected from Bill. Some evenings I even resented my kids. There. I said it. I did. It really made me feel bad, but it was true.
You know what? There were just so many hours in each day that Bill was home, and we have 4 kids that wanted to spend time with us during those hours. We enjoy being together as a family so much, but we also love each other and that part of us was being neglected. Neglected to the point where we had started snapping at and avoiding each other. Way on the “whoa, this isn’t us, something needs to change” side.
And make a change we did.
I now have him all to myself a couple times each week. I feel so happy I could cry. The kids are at school, and one or 2 days each week Mia goes to her Nannies. I wondered what we would say to each other all day without a child hanging from one of our arms or someone screaming “I need to go wee wee so bad”. I was apprehensive that it would somehow not be as great as I imagined.
The truth of the matter is, it was like slipping into a pair of your favorite, well worn jeans. Like finding that last piece of the puzzle that has been missing for awhile, and snapping it into place. Complete and damn satisfying.
Yesterday, I went to bible study with my friends, and afterward out to lunch with them. Bill wanted to go for a bike ride, and I told him I would be home after lunch. I was running late, and when I came home he was sleeping in our bedroom. He had laid out my cycling shorts and jersey on the end of the bed along with his, and fresh water bottles were filled and sitting on the counter in the kitchen. I had to stifle a sob.
He was waiting for me. My husband was anxiously waiting for me to come home and be with him. He could not have touched my soul any deeper.
Awwwwwww, that is so sweet.
I’m so glad you are getting this wonderful time to share. It’s so very important for your marriage, and makes you better parents because of it. (You’re happy and your children automatically pick up on that!)
hugs!
This is a nice post, enjoy your husband and the new found time you have together.
Thank you for this. I find myself competing for my fiancé’s attention when it comes to nieces and nephews and students, and I’ve always wondered if I would ever feel that way when we have our own children. The thought alone made me feel horrible, like I would be the worst mother in the world. But you, the most fabulous mother, has felt that way…so I know that not only does it happen, but it’s okay and it can be overcome. But when you think about it, a lot of parents tend to get SO wrapped up in their children that they forget the love and the connection they once had…and don’t even try to get it back. The two of you are so in love after all these years, and there is nothing better for your children and your family than that. I’m so glad this new situation has happened for the two of you. No one deserves it more!
(Sorry I rambled)
How awesome. Completely awesome.
That is so great. I am so happy for you and also a little (or a lot)envious. My sweetie and I have the same problem and to make it worse we live in different towns. But when we are together it is all okay.
That is so sweet that he was waiting for you
Sounds like he is enjoying time with you as much as you are enjoying him!!
Jody, you are painting such a lovely picture here! I can’t wait to reconnect with my husband like this. You really don’t notice for the longest time (thanks to children) that you MISS them!